“I am going through a rough patch in my relationship..
Does he love me?
Will we get married and have children?”
When I am asked a question like this, I always ask my client if I may rephrase the question.
Why? Because we have freewill and asking a question that can only be answered yes or no is disempowering. So I might rephrase it something like this:
“How can I best work through the difficulties with my partner to bring about a more harmonious relationship?”
Using the Crystal Visions Tarot I drew 3 cards:
The first card addresses the current issue, and I asked of the Tarot
With the Wheel of Fortune in this position, you are called to reflect upon the cyclical nature of all life. I feel you are currently preoccupied with the passing of time, and a tangible sign of progress with your partner is of great importance to you.
Nevertheless, you should remember that the perception of time is relative. In my card, a tiny dragonfly hovers above the water: he has but a single day to live his brief but glorious life. But the ancient dragon who guards the wheel of time has millennia in which to weave his destiny. They have different perceptions, because they have had different experiences during their lives.
It takes time to for two people to get to know each other and to feel comfortable and confident enough to move forward to the next stage of the relationship. I am sure you are familiar with the phrase “Where is this relationship going?”. Perhaps you suspect that your current difficulties are because your partner lacks commitment to you, but perhaps he needs more time to feel secure enough to move forward.
If your partner has had an unhappy experience previously, he may not feel ready yet to commit to your lifeplan, but that doesn’t have to mean he never will.
Of the second card, I asked:
The card of Temperance shows a beautiful winged being sitting beside a lake. Carefully and with great care, she combines fire and water. These elements may not be a natural pairing, yet together, given time, they form a rainbow! Such is the nature of relationships.
Sometimes, things take a little time to get right and if you attempt to press your partner at this stage, you may simply add more pressure than he is ready for.
Temperance advises you to be calm and balanced. Acknowledge your feelings for your partner, but try to think about the outcome as something that will take time and patience to grow.
Encourage him to share his feelings for you in an atmosphere that is free from pressure and hostility. Free yourself from the pressure of time and know that the very best things in life take time and nuture if they are to mature into something worth keeping.
Sixes relate to balance and harmony, and the Six of Pentacles relates to the physical world, particularly finances. This is a card of abundance; what has previously been worked for now brings results. My image shows the gifts of the harvest being shared equally in an act of generosity.
So I ask you to consider the financial nature of your relationship.
Does one of you earn a lot more? If so, how does the other partner offer support in other ways? Is everything balanced within your relationship and if now, can it be brought into balance?
Perhaps for your partner, financial security is a priority right now and until he can achieve this, he may be unable to commit to the kind of relationship that you seek.
The young woman in the image knows that in order for her garden to provide her with a full harvest, she must first tend the land and nurture her seedlings. Only then will she be able to reap her rewards and in most situations in life, this is true. But this card is certainly a card which shows a full harvest and I think it shows promise for a healthy and productive relationship, if that is what you both decide you want.
Mitakuye Oyasin – We Are All Related